Everyone wants to find that someone…

Everyone wants to find that someone…

• someone who will prove to you that not all person are like the ones you’ve met on the past
• who will stay
• who will take you seriously 
• someone who will never leave you hanging
• someone who will appreciate you

You know what? At some point in your life, you’ve probably met THAT someone, who’s willing to be the person you mentioned above-- but you probably haven’t noticed. Why? Because you’re too busy trying to get the attention of another person. Because, admit it or not, even from the start, you already made an ideal figure as to what qualities your special someone would have, that’s why even if there’s someone out there doing his/her best to try to let you notice, you wouldn’t even notice their feelings. And it all goes down to this single line, “We accept the love we think we deserve.”

That’s what usually happens, right? Think of it this way, somebody likes you but you don’t feel the same way for that person, nothing feels right and you just can’t find within yourself the courage to accept the love that person is offering you because a tiny part in your mind tells you that you deserve another. You think you deserve the love of someone else, most probably the one you like, right? That’s why you ignore him/her. Whatever effort he/she exerts, you don’t notice, or maybe you’ve noticed, but you were busy trying to get the attention of another person that’s why you were not moved by his/her gestures. But don’t you realize that what you are doing is just the same as to what he/she is doing? You try your hardest just to be noticed by the one you like/love. Because you think that it’s their love that you deserve. Sometimes we confuse love with being addicted to the exquisite pain of wanting someone so unattainable.


Don’t wait too long. Because waiting is never really an assurance. It’s only a chance..

Waiting is never an assurance as to whether you two are going to end up together. You think that by waiting, you actually get a bigger chance of ending up with him/her? Maybe yes. But for the most of it, waiting only means that you are being given the chance to wait for that person to realize whether or not he/she would learn to feel the same way as you feel for them.  If you always wait, you might end up alone, waiting for that someone who won’t even notice you, when in fact, you can create a happy ending and be with that person who actually cares.

The Moving On-and-Letting-Go Syndrome.

Have you ever been in love yet ended up alone? loved a person a little more than the person could love you back? been in a one-sided love affair aka unrequited love? Been in a pseudo-relationship that you thought had the possibility of being a real one? Or simply saying, have you ever loved someone so much that it seems the world came crashing down when the once happily-ever-after became the happily-never-after?

You try to turn back the pages, look for second chances, going to familiar places that were once memorable to both of you, read saved old messages from that person, go over the photos that you always keep, have a re-run of moments you wish you could have back, it seems so endless, the what-ifs and could have beens  keep flashing and running on your mind, but in the end, nothing changes. you thought that it was never going to end but when it did, its shattering. 

Still, you won't give up. thinking that there can always be that second chances that you could hold on to. you try to look for book 2. You tend to get stuck with the past and never seem to get over it, no matter how hard you try. seeking for a sequel for the nth time, wishing and hoping that maybe, just maybe, things can still be fixed and the relationship might still work. No matter how you think its over, you just CAN'T get over the fact that it is INDEED over. Reality and your mind tells you to let go and move on but your heart tells you otherwise. 

Why? Why can't some people get over and move on easy? Why is letting go and moving on just about one of the hardest things in life? People always has the tendency to linger back and reminisce on it, thinking that by doing so could actually mean they can get another chance to correct their mistakes and shortcomings, which is quite impossible.

It is such a cliche. 

When you come to the verge of the letting go phase, you find yourself hesitating whether to do it or not, a driving force keeps you away from stepping into the latitude of acceptance, unabling you to move on to the next chapter. its as if you're standing at the edge of a cliff, holding on to nothing, something's holding you back, the memories perhaps, or the regret to put what both of you had to waste. should you give it up? you know in your mind that you should but your heart don't know where to start.or how. 

Questions flood your thoughts as you try to seek for answers, even questions that were never asked but were left hanging.

That's the conflict with the separation of the heart and the mind. you become torn between two powerful forces, so powerful that not even gravity could hold you back. if only these forces would agree would each other, such dilemma would not even exist.

But one day, as you'll look back, you'll realize that thanks to the experience you've had, you've become what you are now, a far more better individual than you once were, and what happened was just a great rehearsal for a subsequent relationship in the future.

When God knows we're ready and mature enough for the responsibility of a lasting relationship, He'll reveal the right person under the right circumstances----at the right time. ♥

Wait patiently, don't rush, but instead, grow and be steady, because when the time is right, you'll see that God will give us a love story far better than we could have ever imagined. :)

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